I wouldn't say I'm particularly a stereotypical girl, so in my mind I've always thought I was immune to such stereotypical judging, myself.
This weekend, my theory was blown to bits.
I was visiting my younger brother at his college down south. His fraternity had been awaiting my arrival for hours. He told me, "One's a Pakistani, but he's cool. Another is a retired Marine." Most others, I heard, were just the typical frat guys.
It wasn't until I met them that I realized I'd been stereotyping. We met Zain Hussain, and the name told me all I
thought I needed to know. Terrorist.
Zain speaks better English than I do. He's perfectly polite, a personal trainer at the university gym, and SGA President. I mentally slapped myself in the face. He was the picture of an upstanding citizen.
The Marine followed closely behind. He was short, chubby, and a nerd. In my mind, I'd imagined Mr. "Tall Dark and Handsome" with cut muscles and a deep voice. Sigh... I was sadly mistaken with this one.
Soon, we went to the fraternity house to meet his other brothers. I'd expected roman columns outside, red brick, with huge greek letters sculpted above the entrance... what I got was a ranch style home from the 60s, with run-down interiors and hardly a trace of furniture. I met rednecks, geeks, that rich kid who only owns POLO, and those five guys who insist on drinking until they pass out. Overall, nothing like I'd expected.
I've been judging people based on who they're affiliated with, what they wear, look like, sound like, portray as a first impression. This is wrong. There's that overused phrase "Never judge a book by its cover" that keeps coming into my mind, and it seems fitting in this instance.
I was pleasantly surprised (and not-so-pleasantly surprised at other times) by these brothers. It reminded me that I need to step back and meet a person for who they are, without bringing in all my preconceived notions.
It was a subconscious thing I did, but now I'm consciously avoiding it. How about all of you? Are there any stereotypes that need to be broken down?